I think there is something to the whole visibility question when it comes to certain issues, but not others. Not every paradigm is extensible. When you have a melting pot situation for example as in New York, people from very different cultures living side by side who are exposed to each other’s habits and traditions are a bit weirded out at first, but become good neighbors over time.
I’m not sure that model extends in all areas though. When it comes to such a rare occurrence as this transsexual condition, which to me is simply a case of biological variance at birth, the answer isn’t quite so clear as the immigrant example. With immigrants the threshold for understanding is much lower, and the goal of mutual understanding is shared by both parties. Everyone acknowledges some basic commonalities to being human and time will settle the matter.
With transsexual it is very different. Most people don’t really want to understand, and forcing it on them is seen as an attack. That’s how I view the trans*/TG efforts at education. Further, the goal of the person trying to cure themselves of transsexual syndrome is simply to be a man or woman like other people. Exposing yourself as ‘a transsexual’ defeats that goal and interferes with not only your own treatment but also actively reduces the amount of meaningful exchange that can take place right from the outset. The concept of being transsexual is so foreign to people who don’t experience it that I’m not sure any amount of education could bridge the gulf. And the whole time you are educating by exposure, the gap between transsexual and ‘normal’ increases as does your somatic, emotional, and cultural dysphoria. It’s bad all the way around.
We already have very good evidence for what works and what doesn’t. In the past, as SA ET and Cat have written extensively, we had a very good model for success in treating this problem both medically and socially. People accomplished it in private and without fanfare, and the government made accommodations where it could. We were getting very close to having a permanent legal solution to our status that didn’t involve getting put on some government registry, at least here in the US. The reason we did it quietly wasn’t shame, as alleged by trans* activists. It is because to be public about it precludes the treatment! If everywhere you go, people know you as “that sex change”, you will never simply be a man or woman. That’s another reason that insults like ‘stealth’, or ‘in secret’ don’t apply here, yet make perfect sense to people who believe they are putting on some kind of show for the public. This is diagnostic of the transsexual syndrome, and the trans* obfuscation of this central fact is at the heart of our dispute.
Subsequent to that, we have the track record of the other ‘solution’ to examine after the last 20 years of TG activism. Telling everyone all about transsexual issues such as surgery in lurid detail is a spectacular failure, one so bad that it makes the observer think that it was done on purpose to ruin any chance a born transsexual would have of curing their problem. We can see negative results everywhere this ‘education’ has been tried. It interferes with not only our legal rights and privileges, due to the losses we have incurred where transgender activists have set out to represent our interests, but it also get in the way of the very treatment itself. If everyone knows you have a transsexual background it keeps the issue from resolving, it is an open wound that never heals. This is what the TG fail to understand about the condition, and I’m not sure anything I or anyone else says can get through to them. This is one the central things that sets us apart, and defines our condition.
And this is one of the things that drives me to rage when the TG types are playing that game of “you can never escape”. Monica Roberts especially likes to zero in on some story about a post op getting dissed as a TG, as if to say “We will own you forever”. As if that event is a selling point for the trans* dogma!
See, I and the others aren’t just some TG’s putting on airs, so the game they are playing is deadly serious to us. When they say they will own us and use us regardless of our wishes… well what other situation with women does that remind you of? Whether or not you believe in the biological origin of our condition, people have to admit *something* is driving us to the extremes we go to. People who aren’t driven to those extremes think its all fun and games when they expose us, to turn us into TG’s like them in the public eye due to the situation they themselves have engineered via propaganda. It’s just one-upsmanship to them, playing their game of hierarchy. But the ones who know better, the ones who have been at it all these years, who have met real deal transsexuals in the past and DO know the difference- they are the truly guilty parties. Shame on them!
What they are actually doing is fucking with something so deep, so primal in us that words fail to describe what we are going through. When you constantly attack the core of our being, you are going to elicit such a rage that I’m honestly surprised how civil most of us are about this. Given the kinds of things we’ve had to endure from the likes of Autumn Sandeen talking about our crotches and the outright misogyny of all the long-forgotten TG warriors of the internet over these years I think we are doing pretty well in the civility department.
So you see why I am not really feeling it when people tell me that my issues need to be tied to crossdressing, or that somehow I bear the burden of explaining ‘gender variance’ to the public because we are one big happy queer family? Does it make a little more sense why I view crossdressing men and women who claim transsexualism as part of their political crusade as invaders and enemies rather than brothers and sisters?
Having them misinform the public and happily go along with the gay appropriation of transsexual syndrome is a direct affront to my personal sovereignty and to the truth itself. It is an assault on my dignity. It turns my life and everything I’ve been through into a joke for the titillation of uninformed masses, a gale of laughter at my expense which the trans* crowd joins in gleefully.
It is obvious that the trans* crowd knows literally nothing about transsexual syndrome, and they betray that fact every time they open their mouths on the subject. At this point I honestly don’t give a shit if Bob the pantywanker has to head back in ‘the closet’ (whatever that’s supposed to mean to a crossdresser) and keep his sexual fetishes to himself from now on. I don’t care if gay boys who want to play around with straight guys have the ‘right’ to get their licenses and birth certificates changed before surgery. Their fights are not ours!! Enough of their sexual liberation at our expense.