SA ET has a great post at her blog Enough Nonsense. It’s really about time that someone pointed out that the world does not, and will not, change to accommodate the wishes of those of us who transition- lots of people seem to think that saying you have a medical diagnosis of being a transsexual means that people must treat you a certain way. And when it doesn’t they think something is wrong with the world. That’s one of the key problems with the transgender approach.
Half transition is not a cure for a “partial gender identity”. That is patent nonsense. Transition is for transsexuals and there are no half measures involved. You either do it and accept the consequences or you leave it be. People who think they can live between genders are fooling themselves and wrecking their lives. And those who push this gender identity garbage have done major damage through their advocacy for a false construct both to themselves and their families, as well as to the overall state of transsexual medical treatment and public acceptance.
As a friend says, if your life isn’t better after transition than before, then what are you doing it for? To live “authentically”, comes the refrain. But that doesn’t really mean anything does it? A life can be measured with objective criteria of happiness and fulfillment, and the transgender lifestyle fails at these tasks not because society simply doesn’t understand them (as it is with gays and lesbians to an extent), but because the transgender lifestyle itself creates misery. It is not a legitimate way to live. And you know why? It’s axiomatic, and it’s what I just said. TG produces a misery index every time it is injected into someone’s life and it causes demonstrable harm. It misdirects a person’s time and energy away from handling their issues with false hope and false promises of a better life.
And once you tell everyone you are TG with the obligatory coming out routine that is prescribed for all trans* people, you can’t take it back. It’s forever. Unless of course you disappear and resurface. But your ties with your family and other loved ones can never be untainted. Trans carries a high price, a price that is denied by those who try to sell that snake oil. If you try to transition and are not a transsexual you will quickly find that life becomes all but unlivable over time. Visit any TG “community” and look around. A bastion of hope and change it is not.
Do I say these things to harm people? No, exactly the opposite. I have seen first hand what trans does to people’s lives and it never turns out well. By being straightforward, and even angry, I hope to impart an urgency and a truth to the dialog that doesn’t exist now. The world is not a place where we can all just join hands and play let’s pretend and have everything magically appear the way we want it. But neither is it the cold, cruel world the TG imagine must await them outside the ghetto walls. You just have to be honest with yourself, and take that first step towards your future.
For some being truthful with yourself is the hardest thing you can do, as another friend just pointed out to me. (Hey Lisa! :)) But that’s where your life begins.
If you aren’t transsexual, don’t transition. Sooner or later you will regret it.